DIY Reflexology: 7 Points for Awesome Sex!

You’d be surprised what some footwork can do for your sex life! No, not dancing—I’m talking about the amazing benefits of reflexology. It gets you ready to be turned on by whatever turns you on!

I’d like to meet the man who invented sex and see what he’s working on now.”

~ Anonymous

Great sex is about more than just raging hormones. Here’s how reflexology can help you experience mind-blowing sex with your partner, again and again!

Build Trust

Whether you’re in a new or longer-term relationship, trusting your partner is fundamental to great sex.

How reflexology can help:

For couples just getting to know one another sexually, you’re just moving in together or you’ve been together a while, reflexology helps you get over nervousness and stressful moments. Reflexology is a wonderful form of non-verbal communication that builds trust.

Relieve Stress

Stress often results in a diminished interest in sex. It can also interrupt your sleep cycle so you’re too tired for sex. Some people under stress turn to unhealthy behaviors, which can also reduce sex drive.

How reflexology can help:

One of the most common experiences my clients report after a reflexology session is feeling deeply relaxed. The stresses of the day melt away as your nervous system becomes blissfully calm during a session.

Elevate Libido

The demands of life and relationships today often lower sex drive.

How reflexology can help:

Working reflex points like the brain, hypothalamus, pituitary and ovaries/testes stimulates hormone production (see chart). Plus the profound relaxation you’ll experience helps put you more “in the mood.”

Use Foreplay and Afterplay

Setting the mood for lovemaking starts well before sex. Fun, light conversation with your partner, softly lit candles, your favorite romantic music, the aroma of essential oils from a diffuser can all contribute to creating an environment conducive to sensual, satisfying sex.

How reflexology can help:

It’s great foreplay! Stimulating areas on the feet creates pleasurable sensations on many levels, comparable to the pleasure couples experience in lovemaking. Like lovemaking, reflexology can be a total immersion into another person—done best when you can forget yourself and enter into the peace and relaxation you’re giving your partner. Afterplay is just as important. Rather than jumping up after lovemaking, reflexology can help you can stay physically and emotionally connected.

“It is not sex that gives the pleasure, but the lover.” ~ Marge Piercy

Gettin’ in the Mood

Reflexology is a therapeutic practice for applying gentle, firm pressure to “reflex points” on the hands, face, ears and—most commonly—the feet. There are almost 15,000 nerves in the feet—one reason why reflexology is so calming and nurturing. While releasing tension and stress, reflexology gently impacts all your organs, glands, and each part of your body–because each part has a related point on the feet.

You can easily use the simple 10-minute foot reflexology routine below to relax you both, clear your minds of worries and reduce tension throughout your bodies. You’ll make love with greater spontaneity, energy and freedom, giving yourself more fully to the rituals of love you and your “sole mate” choose.

Use slow, sensual movements and enjoy!

  1. Relax the feet, one at a time, with simple relaxation techniques: pressing, squeezing, lightly slapping, gently kneading—whatever feels good. Finish by pressing and holding your thumb on the solar plexus point of each foot for five to ten seconds (see chart).
  2. On the bottom of each foot, “walk” your thumb up from the base of the heel to each toe using tiny movements (imagine your thumb is a caterpillar inching up your foot), then press these points with the outer edge of your thumb or tip of your forefinger: • Solar Plexus – relax and release anxiety • Brain – heightens libido and stimulates imagination • Pituitary – master gland for hormone secretion Hypothalamus – signals ovaries/testes to produce estrogen/testosterone • Adrenals – increase energy • Spine – improves flexibility; soothes nervous system Uterus/Prostate – (inside of ankles) supports uterine orgasm/ejaculation
  3. Apply relaxation techniques again and finish with another thumb press on the Solar Plexus point on both feet. End with “breeze strokes”—lightly running your fingertips down the tops, bottoms and sides of each foot in a feathery motion, barely touching the skin. Repeat several times. It is very soothing to the nerves.

Sharing the experience reflexology offers enhances intimacy and prepares you both for exhilarating lovemaking. Transport yourselves into pleasure together—feet first!

– Laura Norman